oof the distinction between sharing between a part versus self is huge & something i'm so grateful to have learned from my therapist, too! i'm not really on instagram anymore so haven't seen what you've shared there but - i think in leftist internet culture (and IRL too) there can be such a standard of perfectionism that feels pretty much just like my evangelical upbringing in a new outfit. we are humans. sometimes we do things outside our value systems. we try to repair, we grow and change, we do our best. sending lots of love & wishing for you to experience lots of care, compassion, and healing!
❤️ having others pile onto the meanest things we say to ourselves is horrific pain. I’m sorry you are going through such awful treatment on top of some top tier human challenges (relationship endings in particular), and I hope you keep coming back to gentleness and compassion.
My theory on why people react so badly to people they follow on the internet having big life changes--- it reminds us all that social media is a window, not the whole home. It brings with it that uncomfortable reminder that things change, people change, and relationships end. You can not simply not freeze frame your life into that little 5x8 box. Something happening unexpectedly to ppl on the internet is a big flashing sign that might as well say "MEMENTO MORI". We've kinda tricked ourselves into thinking that a perfect dress or perfect selfie/couples picture is the real thing. Nah the real thing is messy, hard, exciting, maddening, and everything in between. It reminds us just how little control we actually have on the river of life and that's a looooot of existential dread for your coffee scroll break lol
wow, thanks for sharing! i'm not really in the position you are describing, but i am experiencing similar emotions around my own mental health. when you posed the question, "What if we didn’t let shame lead?" i felt something shift inside me. i don't know. i'm also in my own messy story and i wish i knew when it would wrap up, but i feel as if i'm at an ending that feels like a beginning.
Sending you love, Sam!
Love this, you're rad.
Appreciate the openness as someone who has gone through something similar :) thanks for sharing
oof the distinction between sharing between a part versus self is huge & something i'm so grateful to have learned from my therapist, too! i'm not really on instagram anymore so haven't seen what you've shared there but - i think in leftist internet culture (and IRL too) there can be such a standard of perfectionism that feels pretty much just like my evangelical upbringing in a new outfit. we are humans. sometimes we do things outside our value systems. we try to repair, we grow and change, we do our best. sending lots of love & wishing for you to experience lots of care, compassion, and healing!
❤️ having others pile onto the meanest things we say to ourselves is horrific pain. I’m sorry you are going through such awful treatment on top of some top tier human challenges (relationship endings in particular), and I hope you keep coming back to gentleness and compassion.
My theory on why people react so badly to people they follow on the internet having big life changes--- it reminds us all that social media is a window, not the whole home. It brings with it that uncomfortable reminder that things change, people change, and relationships end. You can not simply not freeze frame your life into that little 5x8 box. Something happening unexpectedly to ppl on the internet is a big flashing sign that might as well say "MEMENTO MORI". We've kinda tricked ourselves into thinking that a perfect dress or perfect selfie/couples picture is the real thing. Nah the real thing is messy, hard, exciting, maddening, and everything in between. It reminds us just how little control we actually have on the river of life and that's a looooot of existential dread for your coffee scroll break lol
It's so nice to see you around these parts again. Thank you for sharing your self and all your vulnerable, human parts with us 🩷
Proud of you 🫶
wow, thanks for sharing! i'm not really in the position you are describing, but i am experiencing similar emotions around my own mental health. when you posed the question, "What if we didn’t let shame lead?" i felt something shift inside me. i don't know. i'm also in my own messy story and i wish i knew when it would wrap up, but i feel as if i'm at an ending that feels like a beginning.